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UK dating agencies
directory and guide
- Start
slowly. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true.
Begin by first communicating just by e-mail. Be on the lookout for
strange behavior or inconsistencies. Listen very carefully to your
correspondent's words. The person may not be who or what he/she says. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you
feel uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety and protection.
 Safeguard
your Anonymity. Never
include your last name, real e-mail address, personal Web site URL,
home address, phone number, place of work, or any other identifying
information in your initial e-mails you exchange with other people. Make sure your
e-mail signature file is turned off, or does
not include identifying information. Stop communicating with anyone
who pressures you for this information or attempts in any way to trick
you into revealing it. Take all the time you need to become
comfortable with someone before revealing any personal contact
information. Ask questions and make sure you are satisfied with the
answers. Trust your instincts, move cautiously and be selective.
- Exercise Caution and Common Sense. Careful, well-thought decisions
generally lead to better results in dating, and this is certainly true with online dating too. Guard against trusting the untrustworthy.
Any potential partner must earn your trust gradually, through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Your job is to take all the time you need
to test for a trustworthy person, and pay careful attention along the way. Take a relatively conservative approach to trusting anyone you
meet online. If you think someone is lying, it is likely that they are, so act accordingly. Move on to someone you can eventually trust.
Conduct yourself and your romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse.
- Request a
Photograph. A photograph will give you a good idea of the person's
appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling about your correspondent. In fact, it's best to view several
photographs of
this person in a variety of settings: casual, formal, indoor, outdoors. If he or she continuously comes up with an excuse, it may be
because that person has something to hide.
- Talk Via Telephone. A phone call can reveal much about a person's
communication and social skills. It is worth the cost of the call to protect your security. But do not give out your personal phone
number to a stranger. Try a mobile phone number instead for added security. Or make arrangements to call from a pay phone. Only when you
feel completely comfortable should you give out your phone number.
- Meet When YOU Are Ready. The beauty of meeting and relating online is
that you can gradually collect information and then make a choice about pursuing the relationship in the real world. You are never obligated
to meet anyone, regardless of your level of online intimacy. And even if you do decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to
change your mind. It's possible that your decision to keep the relationship at the anonymous level is based on a hunch that you can't logically
explain. Trust yourself.
Remember
- Always
meet in a public place - bring a friend if you are worried - if they
are genuine they won`t mind
- Make
your own way to the meeting - don`t accept a lift
- Tell
someone who, when and where you are meeting your correspondent - you
could ask them to call you on your mobile (borrow one if you don`t
have one) say 15 minutes into the date so if you do not feel safe you
can make an escuse and leave - your child is ill etc..
- Do
not give out your e-mail, address, telephone number, work address
until you are confident about your correspondent
- If
you have any doubts whatsoever then don`t meet them and stop talking
to them - there are plenty more fish in the sea and Mr or Mrs
Wonderful is just an e-mail or a phone call away!
Enjoy
your dating experience and be safe.
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